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Coping With Husband's Alcoholism

Alcoholism is a universal phenomenon. Down the centuries, numberless women across the globe have been coping with husbands who come home drunk, bash their wives and children and make everyone's life miserable. However surprisingly most women timidly adjust to their husbands' ways rather than raising their voices in protest. Maybe they have their own difficulties and ways of dealing with the problem but if your alcoholic husband is abusing you then it is time that you put an end to this evil and fight courageously against this addiction and save you and your family.

Guidelines for Helping Your Alcoholic Husband :

Acquire proper attitude. It is difficult to help people who sense that you despise them and do not care for them and respect them.

Alcoholism is an addiction to a drug. Therefore willpower is not enough; proper therapies are needed and consult a proper rehabilitation center or counselor.

Confront your husband with the fact of the disease, and offer a possible solution. Alcoholics never get well unless given a chance.

Make your alcoholic husband responsible for his actions. Every time you make excuses for him or shielded him, you have just paid for the next drink.

Use all the alcoholism resources available. It is a complex illness; it needs a network of people to treat it. Take into confidence some of your husband's closest friends (non -drinkers) and ask them to persuade your husband to relinquish the bottle. Most men brush aside the appeal of their wives but pay heed to their friends' advices.

Never give up hope; never be discouraged. Even if your alcoholic husband does not recover at this time, the seed has been planted. It may bear fruit sometime in the future.

Alcoholism is a family disease; all family members are affected; all need treatment.

Try to avoid the parties where your husband will be forced to drink by his friends.

See that your husband’s salary directly comes into your bank account so that he shall not have access to money to spend on drinks.

Try to find the root cause of the problem. Try to have a heart-to-heart talk with him in order to gauge the root cause of his addiction.

Once the causes are discovered, ways and means could be devised to solve the related problems.